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You could be happily ticking along in life and not know that the man you love is planning your engagement. It’s such an exciting time for him, as he’s planning to ask you to spend every minute of the rest of your life as his wife, and that alone is a huge decision to make. Alongside that one, though, is the pressure on him to choose the perfect proposal and the perfect ring to go with it!

8mm Heart Shape Morganite ring

There’s a great divide between women: those who want him to choose the ring and those who want to be there during the ring choice. If he understands what you want before he goes shopping, there’s a greater chance you will fall in love with the ring. However, the engagement shouldn’t just be about the ring – we all know that – but somehow having a beautiful Tacori ring that he has chosen, knowing the things you love the most can make you love him all the more! So, how can you help him to choose the ‘right’ ring for you, without actually having him ask you?

  1. Style. There are literally hundreds of different styles of engagement ring out there and engagement rings are made up of two parts: the setting of the ring and the diamond. The setting refers to the design, and you can read more in depth about the differing ring designs here. You can tell him about the style of the ring you would love if and when the big day comes, but if not, he will need to do some research as to what he prefers. Jewelry stores are often fantastic when it comes to helping with cuts and styles so he will have great advice.
  2. Cut. Diamonds, should he choose them, are cut in so many different ways. This chart here can tell you the different varieties of diamond cut. However, if you’re not the traditional type, you may have other stones or styles instead of the standard rock chosen for you. That’s where personality comes into it!
  3. Fit. Most men do the ‘cotton’ trick at nighttime to size up your finger so that they can buy the right sized ring. However, others take a guess and have a receipt ready to resize. It is always better for him to buy too big and size down than too small, remind him of that!
  4. Budget. Okay, so we’re aware an engagement is not just about the ring, but the budget is important. It doesn’t matter how much he spends as long as the ring is something beautiful and meaningful for you.
  5. Metal. Rings are also about the metals – some women are allergic to certain types and this is something he definitely has to be aware of before he buys you a ring!

Next, comes the proposal and that takes some planning on his part so you won’t be able to influence that too much. When you get that question and he’s on one knee, take a mental snapshot as it’s something you’ll want to remember forever.

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Target is bae and has been bae since my mom and sister came home from a weekend shopping trip like 15 year ago with wild stories of a store with an escalator just for carts. When I was in college, my mom gave me a Target card because they had everything I could need and they were also far superior to Walmart. Cheese? They got it. Sundress? Check! Storage ottoman? YOU BETCHA! And now you can add discount BaubleBar to the mix with SUGARFIX, the sweetest jewelry collab, only at Target.

I checked out SUGARFIX the last time I was in a Target and was overall very pleased with the quality. The chunky statement necklaces were a little lighter than the original BaubleBar brand, but I can’t even say that’s a bad thing. The price is nice- think about half of what you’d expect to spend with BaubleBar- and a lot of it is on clearance PLUS 20% off clearance with the code SAVE20. ALSO- you can earn cashback shopping SUGARFIX by BaubleBar with ebates!

Beaded Tassel Drop Earrings||Crystal Stud Earring Set of Two – Clear||Tassel Earrings with Crystal

Crystal Statement Necklace||Crystal Statement Necklace – Lt Gray/Pink||Turquoise Squash Blossom Necklace

Geometric Gem Drop Earrings||Amazon Bib Necklace – Dark Silver||Tricolor Geometric Drop Earrings – Yellow

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Happy Friday! Week two down at the new job and I finally am starting to feel settled. Wedding plans have been coming along nicely and my Etsy card is filling up as I find fun details for our special day. I keep dreaming that it’s the big day but nothing is done yet and honestly, between Kendall’s eagerness to plan, my awesome mom, my team of ‘maids, and the fact that I’ve been planning this day forever~ I’ll be fiiiiine.

I also wanted to say thank you again for the amazing support I got on my post about siblings who have lost siblings. I have amazing people in my life who have shown nothing but openness and understanding. Thank you, thank you, for checking out my little slice of the world and letting me totally show my soul.

Climbing Earrings

Lately on The CaroLøve:

There have been some GREAT blog posts from other amazing ladies this week:

Dana talked engagement and why it matters. This is great for both bloggers and people trying to understand bloggers.

Alissa described my. exact. issues. with clothes. It’s hard to be short and curvy and have a big bust and find clothes that fit. It feels like most of the time that clothes are both too big and too small at the same time. It’s great that for this post she’s wearing almost the red version of my engagement dress.

I don’t consider myself a bridezilla- in fact on of my bridesmaids’ mom thanked me for naht being that. Am I super excited and in total plan mode and maybe a little obnoxious? Absolutely. But there is one thing that will make me rage. Shell’s post says it all: DO {CLAP} NOT {CLAP} WEAR {CLAP} WHITE {CLAP} to a wedding that is not yours. Do not wear white adjacent colors to a wedding that is not yours (unless the brides makes you wear an ivory gown as her bridesmaid). If you have to ask if the dress is appropriate, DON’T WEAR IT. I’m saying this to anyone who is coming to my own wedding: my Auntie Steph + Tiffy will kick you TF out. I have been in/ involved in so many weddings and that day is my day. End rant. Love you. ‘Zilla moment over.

I’m on of those crazy people who is holding my breath waiting for fall. Groopdealz already has a great selection for Halloween!

J. Crew Factory is having an extra 50% off clearance sale. But it’s in stores only– so get to one!

TJ Maxx has a new online department: lingerie!

Mini Bags are back (or did they ever go away?) and Henri Bendel has some of the cutest lil thangs I’ve ever seen!

Have a wonderful weekend!

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I cannot start today’s post without first thanking everyone for the support on my post yesterday. It meant the world to me how receptive and understanding folks were to my thoughts on a subject that is on my mind each and every day. It actually opened the door to a couple conversations that I think needed to be had as well. Thank you, sincerely, from the bottom of my heart.

Ok- so back to the regularly scheduled programming.

I have described the town where I grew up as equal parts Lilly Pulitzer and camo. I have a Realtree camo hat with a pink monogram. A little bit country, a little bit preppy. Now engaged to an Army man, I actually asked Kendall what he thought of camo clothes, because I would never want to offend him by turning what he works for into some fashion that he finds frivolous.

“I don’t like it.”

“Can you elaborate?”

“It’s green.” (green is his least favorite color)

He also thought it was RULL dumb when Forever 21 was selling what were essentially recently retired PT (physical training) t shirts for $40. (He said he’d sell you his for $20. He also said they’re like $7 for a pack of them so he’s price gouging you too). But I look good in green and he doesn’t mind me wearing camo and I still like it so there you go.

Olive Green Drop Shoulder Camo Sweater||Oversized Camo Parka Jacket CAMOUFLAGE||Camo Print Sweatsuit

Herschel Supply Co. Settlement Backpack||FV RELAY Women’s Camo Loose Fit Short Sleeve Crew-Neck Swing||Groove Women’s Genius Fashion Sneaker

Hybrid Juniors’ Embroidered Camo Printed Cutout T-Shirt||‘Cause She’s Gone Camo Jacket – Camo||Women’s Jag Jeans Ryan Camo Skinny Pants

Democracy Camo Floral Jacket||Decree Womens Camo Stud Bracelet Watch||Express Camo Silky Soft Twill Boyfriend Shirt

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I’ve been considering writing this post for a while now, and I finally got a stretch of time where it is just me, my laptop, and a whole complicated mess of thoughts that I need to get out. As I’m writing, I’m already tearing up and sick to my stomach. I hope that this post helps whoever reads it, in some way.

I have lived an extremely privileged and blessed life, but I, like all humans, have experienced some heartbreak- breakups, disappointments, letdowns. I have never gone through the pain of losing a child and I can’t even imagine how that feels. But I can tell you that so far, losing my sister is the most gut-wrenching, permanent terrible pain I have ever felt. It stays with me every single day, but certain times it hurts more. Holidays are hard, birthdays are hard, and occasionally something extra hard comes along.

A few weeks ago, my hometown lost another bright, shining child and it stirred up a storm in me that had been relatively calm. I say child, but Carter was my age. He was smart, athletic, and loved by so many, as was evident at his service. I said this on Instagram, but I’m not going to pretend that we had stayed in touch or that we were ever very close to begin with, but we did grow up in the same little school in the same little community. For my birthday in 5th grade, he and one of our classmates choreographed a dance to the Thong Song as my present. (Weirdly enough, Sisqo re-released it the same week that Carter died, and the morning after his service, the original was on the radio.) His big sister was my best friend’s sister’s best friend, his little sister was always around for birthday parties of mutual friends. His mom basically took charge of Candace’s funeral. Our families were intertwined, as were many from St. John’s/ Olney.

My heart breaks for his whole family and everyone who loved him, but my thoughts have constantly been on his sisters. They now have the scars that will heal, but never go away. It’s like we’re part of a terrible club where nobody wants membership. Honestly, I wanted to write this post  to let people who aren’t part of the club to know how to treat us.

We’re fragile, sometimes, but not broken. Losing a sibling is a thing that happened to us, but not who we are. I actually had someone introduce me as, “the one who’s sister died” to her husband and I was floored and hurt.

Let us talk about it, but don’t force us. It took me a long time to be able to talk about my sister. I actually told a lot of my sorority sisters at first that I was an only child, with no further explanation but then felt so guilty about it after. Now, I have no problem talking about my sister. Even my best friend in the whole world has started asking me more questions about her. I love it. But it took me a long time to get there.

We need to cry sometimes. Little things, or big things, may sting in a way that not even we understand. Unfortunately, I’ve been to four funerals for “children” (anyone in my age group or younger) since college. Each one has been hard in different ways, each one has left cracks. So have weddings, or friends’ fights with their own siblings. It doesn’t matter if it’s logical, it’s still there.

We all handle it differently. I went to school literally the day after my sister died. Granted, I was fourteen so my classmates were also fourteen, but someone actually told me that I was lying about my sister’s death because how could I possibly be in school? I will never forget the slap in the face that was- was I a bad sister for not sitting at home and crying? Support us by letting us do what we need to do to support ourselves.

This might just be me, but I never know how to react when people tell me they’re sorry when they find out that my sister died. I usually pretend like I didn’t hear that because how do you answer? “It’s ok”? Because it’s not ok. If I’ve ever acted weird in a similar conversation, I apologize. I just don’t know what makes sense sometimes and I navigate it the best I can.

Think of it this way- if you have a bottle of perfume and lose the cap, there isn’t less perfume in the bottle and it doesn’t smell any less sweet, but the bottle looks different and it’s not quite as complete. It’s still functional, but different. Above all, remember that we’re still ourselves, just missing a piece that we had before.

The biggest takeaway should be this: we’re human, we hurt, and our feelings may not make sense to even us. Just stick with us while we try to figure it out.

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