We all suffer with self-confidence issues at some point or another. The fear that you may not be good enough or that you’re bound to fail isn’t something that’s easy to get over. There are very few people on this planet who have never been afraid of taking a risk. But, that fear can hold you back from achieving your dreams. You owe it to yourself to boost your confidence, get out there in the big wide world and grab the bull by the horns. But, how do you do that?
I’m not going to lie- I had a total breakdown on Monday. A project I has been working on kind of fell apart at the seams and the higher-up I was working with was (understandably) not thrilled. I thought I was going to be fired. So I called my mom, my fiancé, and then my boss in panicky tears. I hate letting anyone down. After talking it out, I realized I had done the best I could under tricky circumstances and all was not lost. It’s sometimes really hard to not get down on yourself, but I woke up the following morning with a little boost and by the end of Tuesday, everything had fallen into place.
How do you give yourself a little confidence boost when you need it most?
Dress to Impress
No, not to impress your boss or your partner or anyone else. Dress to impress yourself. There’s something about being in the right outfit that gives you the confidence you need to tackle the day. For example, if you walk into a meeting with potential clients feeling scruffy and under-dressed, you’re unlikely to win them over because you won’t feel at your best. If you walk in dressed to the nines and it makes you feel powerful, you have what you need to make them see your potential. My personal power outfit is a fitted black dress, a black heel, and a strong statement necklace… this outfit.
Take Care of the Exterior
Isn’t it amazing what a bit of grooming can do? Often, if you’re happy with what’s on the outside, you feel more confident on the inside. It could be anything, from a simple haircut to a consultation at drstephanieteotia.com. Self-image is one of the major keys to how you view your confidence levels. If you’re not happy with the way you look, low self-esteem often quickly follows. Do what you can to take pride in your appearance and you could see a big boost. I always feel the best after a hair-did situation with Jenn at Progressions or Amanda at Illusions.
Many of us don’t even recognize how we talk to ourselves. If you’re constantly convinced that you’re going to fail, it’s likely you will fail. Sometimes, we set ourselves up for failure without even realizing it. If you hear yourself saying the words, ‘This is too hard’ or ‘I can’t do that’ you need to start training yourself to think differently. Replace ‘I can’t’ with ‘I can’. It can help to give yourself a little pep talk every morning by enforcing positive thoughts, like ‘I am capable’, ‘I am confident’ and ‘Nothing can stop me but me’.
I actually woke up Tuesday to words clear as day, “you get out of the universe what you put into it.” It may have been God or guardian angels, but some force was telling me to get the hell up and put on a smile, so I’ve been repeating that in my head all week.
Learn to Act
Did you know that everyone you see on a daily basis has some sort of struggle with self-confidence? If you see someone acting confident, it’s often just that – an act. Acting confident can lead to actually feeling confident. Sometimes you just have to take yourself out of your own shoes for a while to be able to see that confidence is achievable. When your actions begin to change, so will your thought process.
I look back to when I first started blogging. Yes, I was terrified to go to events surrounded by gorgeous women in perfect outfits, but I went! I eventually found the perfect crew to run with all because I pretended not to be scared to meet Dani for brunch!
Find Your Tribe
Real queens fix each other’s crowns. I stand by this, and this is one of the main ideals of Bubbles & Bloggers. Surround yourself with uplifting people and even at your worst, you will have support you need to lift yourself back up. You have someone to commiserate with when your day is crap. On the flipside, they’ll celebrate the little achievements with you (no matter how little!)
It’s important to be kind to yourself and to others. Have you ever experienced the self-confidence boost you get from helping someone in need? It can help you to realize your self-worth.Improving your self-confidence, no matter how you choose to do it, could open up a whole new world for you.