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We all suffer with self-confidence issues at some point or another. The fear that you may not be good enough or that you’re bound to fail isn’t something that’s easy to get over. There are very few people on this planet who have never been afraid of taking a risk. But, that fear can hold you back from achieving your dreams. You owe it to yourself to boost your confidence, get out there in the big wide world and grab the bull by the horns. But, how do you do that?

I’m not going to lie- I had a total breakdown on Monday. A project I has been working on kind of fell apart at the seams and the higher-up I was working with was (understandably) not thrilled. I thought I was going to be fired. So I called my mom, my fiancé, and then my boss in panicky tears. I hate letting anyone down. After talking it out, I realized I had done the best I could under tricky circumstances and all was not lost. It’s sometimes really hard to not get down on yourself, but I woke up the following morning with a little boost and by the end of Tuesday, everything had fallen into place.

How do you give yourself a little confidence boost when you need it most?

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Dress to Impress

No, not to impress your boss or your partner or anyone else. Dress to impress yourself. There’s something about being in the right outfit that gives you the confidence you need to tackle the day. For example, if you walk into a meeting with potential clients feeling scruffy and under-dressed, you’re unlikely to win them over because you won’t feel at your best. If you walk in dressed to the nines and it makes you feel powerful, you have what you need to make them see your potential. My personal power outfit is a fitted black dress, a black heel, and a strong statement necklace… this outfit.

Take Care of the Exterior

Isn’t it amazing what a bit of grooming can do? Often, if you’re happy with what’s on the outside, you feel more confident on the inside. It could be anything, from a simple haircut to a consultation at drstephanieteotia.com. Self-image is one of the major keys to how you view your confidence levels. If you’re not happy with the way you look, low self-esteem often quickly follows. Do what you can to take pride in your appearance and you could see a big boost. I always feel the best after a hair-did situation with Jenn at Progressions or Amanda at Illusions.

Positive Outlook

Many of us don’t even recognize how we talk to ourselves. If you’re constantly convinced that you’re going to fail, it’s likely you will fail. Sometimes, we set ourselves up for failure without even realizing it. If you hear yourself saying the words, ‘This is too hard’ or ‘I can’t do that’ you need to start training yourself to think differently. Replace ‘I can’t’ with ‘I can’. It can help to give yourself a little pep talk every morning by enforcing positive thoughts, like ‘I am capable’, ‘I am confident’ and ‘Nothing can stop me but me’.

I actually woke up Tuesday to words clear as day, “you get out of the universe what you put into it.” It may have been God or guardian angels, but some force was telling me to get the hell up and put on a smile, so I’ve been repeating that in my head all week.

Learn to Act

Did you know that everyone you see on a daily basis has some sort of struggle with self-confidence? If you see someone acting confident, it’s often just that – an act. Acting confident can lead to actually feeling confident. Sometimes you just have to take yourself out of your own shoes for a while to be able to see that confidence is achievable. When your actions begin to change, so will your thought process.

I look back to when I first started blogging. Yes, I was terrified to go to events surrounded by gorgeous women in perfect outfits, but I went! I eventually found the perfect crew to run with all because I pretended not to be scared to meet Dani for brunch!

Find Your Tribe

Real queens fix each other’s crowns. I stand by this, and this is one of the main ideals of Bubbles & Bloggers. Surround yourself with uplifting people and even at your worst, you will have support you need to lift yourself back up. You have someone to commiserate with when your day is crap. On the flipside, they’ll celebrate the little achievements with you (no matter how little!)

Be Kind

It’s important to be kind to yourself and to others. Have you ever experienced the self-confidence boost you get from helping someone in need? It can help you to realize your self-worth.Improving your self-confidence, no matter how you choose to do it, could open up a whole new world for you.

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Ok- consider my blogging slump officially over. Last night, I went to support Dani at a blogger Q&A hosted by the DC chapter of The Blogger Union. I got to catch up with some of my Bubbles + Bloggers pals and make some new connections with bloggers I’ve never met. I was so proud of Dani- she did an amazing job answering questions about how social media works for her as a blogger. It was super inspiring and I decided that I wanted to share some of my favorite resources for both monetizing my blog and social media.

Turning Dreams into Empires Takes Hustle and Heart

Social media helpers:

Since the theme of the night was really social media, I’ll start off with that.

I use Hootsuite for all of my scheduling for Facebook + Twitter. My ideal formula is to have three of my own blog posts and three affiliate links (more on that later) a day per social media. I’ve been slacking on this, and blogging in general, since getting my new job but I want to get into a better routine, especially since Hootsuite makes it to easy. Admittedly, I don’t really schedule my Instagram posts- I just post on my Instagram and the Bubbles & Bloggers Instagram in the morning on the bus. Hootsuite takes the guesswork out of when it it best to post as well as shortens the links to make them more visually appealing to the reader.

Linktree is one of the coolest things I’ve seen in a while. You know how it’s super annoying that you can’t link in Instagram? No more is that a problem! You can add multiple links to one main place in your Instagram bio. For example, you can have your blog linked, a post you’re especially proud of, your Poshmark closet, and an upcoming event you want to share- all in one tidy place in your Instagram bio!

I mostly use Crowdfire for the Bubbles & Bloggers twitter at this point. It’s a great tool for growing your twitter network plus it helps find great, relevant content to share. The way it works is that it sets up daily “prescriptions” letting you know what would be great to share, who would it make sense to follow, etc. It also lets you know if you have any inactive followers and reminds you to show your followers love on their posts. Twitter is honestly my favorite social media, so I tweet pretty organically from my own account, but it has been totally instrumental in growing the B&B account.

Tools to monetize your blog:

The first way I ever monetized my blog was through ShareASale. When you sign up for ShareASale, you decided which of their merchants fit into your blog brand, and you apply to be an affiliate with the individual brands. Once approved, you can essentially “make” your own links that, if used to make a purchase, you will earn money for those purchases. There are a lot of smaller brands as merchants through ShareASale, but the ones that do the best for me are ModCloth and Stella & Dot! It’s great because if I feature a necklace that I love from Stella & Dot, I can link that necklace directly using my own personal link using Create Custom Link and if someone buys it from my link, I earn money on it.

Where ShareASale pays me per purchase, Shopstyle Collective pays me per click and there are thousands upon thousands of items to link to. It took me some playing around to get to the level of comfort I have with it now, but Shopstyle Collective is a great tool. (It’s also how I make my nifty widgets). I think my favorite way to use it is in my outfit posts. Let’s say I do an outfit post with a navy sweater, but I bought that sweater a couple years ago and can’t link it for my readers to buy. I can easily search “navy blue sweater” in Shopstyle and find something similar to share with my readers.

I’m a huge Amazon fan, so Amazon Associates (in theory) is awesome because it lets me share my Amazon purchases with custom links so that if my readers purchase using those links, I get a percentage (just like ShareASale). I do have to say though, I do not understand one bit when I do and do not get paid or how much. That could just be me not getting it, but it seems a bit inconsistent.

I feel like I just threw a lot of information out there, and I hope at least some of it was useful to bloggers who are just getting started and need a few hacks. Please, as I told many ladies last night, do not hesitate to reach out to me if you have any questions about the above tools, social media, blog monetization, or blogging in general. It’s all one big learning curve and I’m always happy to share ideas or even just chat. Feel free to leave a comment below or shoot me an email at thecarolove@gmail.com.

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Happy Easter weekend, y’all. Anyone have off today? Not I, said the fly. But this weekend should be awesome! I’m going to a Blog Societies meetup for my first ever SoulCycle class at the at the 14th St. location in  DC tomorrow.

Sunday Kendall and + are going to Easter service + brunch at Filomena with my dad. Easter service is always one of my favorites, and always a nice reset button for me as a Christian. Praying for sunny skies so that we can properly enjoy our Georgetown day. BTW- Easter is a special time for Kendall and I because that’s when we made things “official” last year. His brave self came home to meet the parents (and aunts and uncles and cousins… and my mom’s yoga instructor) for Easter service and brunch.

Psalm 18:33 Bible Verse Art

This week on The CaroLøve:

A huge thanks again to Dani for making me her #wcw this week!

I am super tardy to the party about seeing Beauty and the Beast because honestly I just don’t care all that much, but how adorable/ gorgeous/ perfect is Kristen’s Belle shoot?

I’ve gotten really into American Playboy: The Hugh Hefner Story on Amazon. Call me crazy but I actually find the man inspiring. Did you know he started the magazine because he didn’t think men had a substantial magazine for themselves? The girls were almost a bit of an afterthought. He also played a part in the Civil Rights Movement.

I cannot stop listening to two songs right now: Julia Michaels – Issues + For King & Country – Priceless.

I woke up to a an article in a group chat that really struck a chord with me. I don’t think anyone should try to put themselves in a fashion box- even the stereotypical ever-fashionable French. (Even if my current casual Friday situation is French-casual inspired- black skinny jeans, black flats, and this striped top– now on sale for $9!)

Enjoy your weekend!

Sugar Bean Jewelry

 

 

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Happy Friday! Our CFO is retiring next week so I’ll be busy all afternoon helping to set up his Margaritaville sendoff. Tomorrow, Sarah and I are shooting (Yay! Outfit posts coming!) then heading to Chaplin’s. Sunday, Kendall and I are going to church where we would like to be married and then to Baltimore we go for Simple Plan! I love going to concerts with my (now) fiance! PLUS we have some great news- we settled on a reception venue so things are really getting rolling for our wedding next year!

Engaged bride-to-be gift box

This video from Upworthy actually gave me chills- totally made me rethink the phrase “special needs.”

I am so proud of Kaylin Yost! She was a year below my sister in elementary school and her brother Alex was in my class. She’s overcome great obstacles to be a fantastic pro golfer!

Speaking of incredible female athletes, Allure‘s video of Alicia Napoleon takes a hard look at beauty standards for women and women in sports.

I am such a DC girl, but if I was a state who walked into a bar, I’d be a Maryland through and through. via The Federalist Papers

I love lavender + lemonade. I also have anxiety. This lavender lemonade sounds like it might be perfect for me!

I’m tardy to the party sharing this because I didn’t do a TGIF last week but how stunning are Dani + Jen in the new line from Blake Porter Studio?

Have a great weekend!

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Originally posted on Little Bitty City One 2/24/16

This may be my favorite shoot of all time ever for several reasons. Firstly, Dani of Blonde in the District is a joy to work with and a total sweetie. She actually organized the brunch for a little group of us at Ambar– there were new bloggers and experienced bloggers and in betweens, like me. No judgment of anything that anyone was doing, just advice and problems we’ve all had and a great feeling of girl-power. I actually got some amazing advice from Alison of Wardrobe Oxygen. I’m going to paraphrase here but when I told her that recently I’d felt discouraged and even considered saying goodbye to LBC1, she told me to not give up on my blog, but since it’s mine all mine, mold it to be exactly what I want it to be. There is no right or wrong here.

Secondly, Dani picked this amazing spot for our shoot. The Fridge is a cool gallery down by Eastern Market, and apparently their mural outside changes all the time. I can’t wait to go back.

Thirdly, I was kinda diggin’ my outfit. It was actually decently warm on Saturday, and I was so happy to be without the bulky coat.I’ve been doing so much business casual on my blog that it was fun to break away from that. I’m also obsessed with my little milk purse. For whatever reason, I’ve wanted a milk carton purse for like a year. Kate Spade had one, Betsey Johnson had one, SkinnyDip London had one… and I wanted one, but didn’t want to spend a ton on a novelty bag. Hi Amazon.com for under $10 🙂

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ok- so this is technically an outtake- but this may be my favorite

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photos by Blonde in the District

Aerie poncho [last seen here]; similar here, here, here||almost identical Milk carton purse||Stack: Wanderer Cuff; Kendra Scott Colorbar bracelet; Mini Cone Stud Stretch Bracelet||ECENTRCQ sneakers||leather leggings here, here, here

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