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This post is so tardy to the party and I apologize. A few weeks ago, for our October meetup, Bubbles & Bloggers hosted and intimate chat at Mission with Ashlee of Cobolt Chronicals and Contracts for Creatives.

Bloggers are told time and time again that they should have a contract when working with brands. This is something I have ignored the teensy-est bit, and I’ve gotten away with it because the brands I work with an myself have been good at delivering our end of the bargain. Plus, I figured that since our terms are outlined in an email, that’s basically a contract, right?


While I was totally stoked to find out that a contract doesn’t have to be created by a lawyer to make it binding, it does need to be signed and dated by both parties.  Ashlee filled us in with what it takes to have a good contract in the blogging world, and I feel confident that I can put together a contract of my own. However, I would probably have her review it to be safe, which is one of the services she offers. Definitely check her out if you need legal help with your blog!

But let’s go back for a second to “I can put together a contract of my own”. This blog, and the ones that came before it (Getting Warped, Case of the Mondays, and Little Bitty City One) has been a total learning and growing experience. Yes, I was inspired by bloggers to start my own, but I’ve done it pretty much solo since then. This is absolutely not to discredit the friends I’ve bounced content with, traded photo-shoots with, and shared resources with, but when it comes down to it, The CaroLøve is all me.

I’ve figured out how to do a little bit of coding, found the plugins to make my blog go my way, played with what works and what doesn’t. When I grew out of Little Bitty City One, I started The CaroLøve as a blank canvas. Even that has evolved. I don’t want my blog or myself to stop growing and I probably spend about 5 hours a week reading articles on blog growth or technology etc.

So hear this, fellow bloggers- when you’re feeling a little slumpy, look back on everything you’ve done, achieved, created. Be proud of it, but don’t become complacent. Thank the friends who have helped you along the way, but don’t discount how much you really have done on your own.

pictures by Sarah

Outfit details:

Earrings: ADMK||The Sari Necklace c/o Pearl & Clasp||Tote: Macy’s||Top: Loft||Skirt: Forever 21||Booties: Amazon||Jacket: Amazon

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We all suffer with self-confidence issues at some point or another. The fear that you may not be good enough or that you’re bound to fail isn’t something that’s easy to get over. There are very few people on this planet who have never been afraid of taking a risk. But, that fear can hold you back from achieving your dreams. You owe it to yourself to boost your confidence, get out there in the big wide world and grab the bull by the horns. But, how do you do that?

I’m not going to lie- I had a total breakdown on Monday. A project I has been working on kind of fell apart at the seams and the higher-up I was working with was (understandably) not thrilled. I thought I was going to be fired. So I called my mom, my fiancé, and then my boss in panicky tears. I hate letting anyone down. After talking it out, I realized I had done the best I could under tricky circumstances and all was not lost. It’s sometimes really hard to not get down on yourself, but I woke up the following morning with a little boost and by the end of Tuesday, everything had fallen into place.

How do you give yourself a little confidence boost when you need it most?

Coffee Contour & Confidence

Dress to Impress

No, not to impress your boss or your partner or anyone else. Dress to impress yourself. There’s something about being in the right outfit that gives you the confidence you need to tackle the day. For example, if you walk into a meeting with potential clients feeling scruffy and under-dressed, you’re unlikely to win them over because you won’t feel at your best. If you walk in dressed to the nines and it makes you feel powerful, you have what you need to make them see your potential. My personal power outfit is a fitted black dress, a black heel, and a strong statement necklace… this outfit.

Take Care of the Exterior

Isn’t it amazing what a bit of grooming can do? Often, if you’re happy with what’s on the outside, you feel more confident on the inside. It could be anything, from a simple haircut to a consultation at drstephanieteotia.com. Self-image is one of the major keys to how you view your confidence levels. If you’re not happy with the way you look, low self-esteem often quickly follows. Do what you can to take pride in your appearance and you could see a big boost. I always feel the best after a hair-did situation with Jenn at Progressions or Amanda at Illusions.

Positive Outlook

Many of us don’t even recognize how we talk to ourselves. If you’re constantly convinced that you’re going to fail, it’s likely you will fail. Sometimes, we set ourselves up for failure without even realizing it. If you hear yourself saying the words, ‘This is too hard’ or ‘I can’t do that’ you need to start training yourself to think differently. Replace ‘I can’t’ with ‘I can’. It can help to give yourself a little pep talk every morning by enforcing positive thoughts, like ‘I am capable’, ‘I am confident’ and ‘Nothing can stop me but me’.

I actually woke up Tuesday to words clear as day, “you get out of the universe what you put into it.” It may have been God or guardian angels, but some force was telling me to get the hell up and put on a smile, so I’ve been repeating that in my head all week.

Learn to Act

Did you know that everyone you see on a daily basis has some sort of struggle with self-confidence? If you see someone acting confident, it’s often just that – an act. Acting confident can lead to actually feeling confident. Sometimes you just have to take yourself out of your own shoes for a while to be able to see that confidence is achievable. When your actions begin to change, so will your thought process.

I look back to when I first started blogging. Yes, I was terrified to go to events surrounded by gorgeous women in perfect outfits, but I went! I eventually found the perfect crew to run with all because I pretended not to be scared to meet Dani for brunch!

Find Your Tribe

Real queens fix each other’s crowns. I stand by this, and this is one of the main ideals of Bubbles & Bloggers. Surround yourself with uplifting people and even at your worst, you will have support you need to lift yourself back up. You have someone to commiserate with when your day is crap. On the flipside, they’ll celebrate the little achievements with you (no matter how little!)

Be Kind

It’s important to be kind to yourself and to others. Have you ever experienced the self-confidence boost you get from helping someone in need? It can help you to realize your self-worth.Improving your self-confidence, no matter how you choose to do it, could open up a whole new world for you.


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Ok- consider my blogging slump officially over. Last night, I went to support Dani at a blogger Q&A hosted by the DC chapter of The Blogger Union. I got to catch up with some of my Bubbles + Bloggers pals and make some new connections with bloggers I’ve never met. I was so proud of Dani- she did an amazing job answering questions about how social media works for her as a blogger. It was super inspiring and I decided that I wanted to share some of my favorite resources for both monetizing my blog and social media.

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Social media helpers:

Since the theme of the night was really social media, I’ll start off with that.

I use Hootsuite for all of my scheduling for Facebook + Twitter. My ideal formula is to have three of my own blog posts and three affiliate links (more on that later) a day per social media. I’ve been slacking on this, and blogging in general, since getting my new job but I want to get into a better routine, especially since Hootsuite makes it to easy. Admittedly, I don’t really schedule my Instagram posts- I just post on my Instagram and the Bubbles & Bloggers Instagram in the morning on the bus. Hootsuite takes the guesswork out of when it it best to post as well as shortens the links to make them more visually appealing to the reader.

Linktree is one of the coolest things I’ve seen in a while. You know how it’s super annoying that you can’t link in Instagram? No more is that a problem! You can add multiple links to one main place in your Instagram bio. For example, you can have your blog linked, a post you’re especially proud of, your Poshmark closet, and an upcoming event you want to share- all in one tidy place in your Instagram bio!

I mostly use Crowdfire for the Bubbles & Bloggers twitter at this point. It’s a great tool for growing your twitter network plus it helps find great, relevant content to share. The way it works is that it sets up daily “prescriptions” letting you know what would be great to share, who would it make sense to follow, etc. It also lets you know if you have any inactive followers and reminds you to show your followers love on their posts. Twitter is honestly my favorite social media, so I tweet pretty organically from my own account, but it has been totally instrumental in growing the B&B account.

Tools to monetize your blog:

The first way I ever monetized my blog was through ShareASale. When you sign up for ShareASale, you decided which of their merchants fit into your blog brand, and you apply to be an affiliate with the individual brands. Once approved, you can essentially “make” your own links that, if used to make a purchase, you will earn money for those purchases. There are a lot of smaller brands as merchants through ShareASale, but the ones that do the best for me are ModCloth and Stella & Dot! It’s great because if I feature a necklace that I love from Stella & Dot, I can link that necklace directly using my own personal link using Create Custom Link and if someone buys it from my link, I earn money on it.

Where ShareASale pays me per purchase, Shopstyle Collective pays me per click and there are thousands upon thousands of items to link to. It took me some playing around to get to the level of comfort I have with it now, but Shopstyle Collective is a great tool. (It’s also how I make my nifty widgets). I think my favorite way to use it is in my outfit posts. Let’s say I do an outfit post with a navy sweater, but I bought that sweater a couple years ago and can’t link it for my readers to buy. I can easily search “navy blue sweater” in Shopstyle and find something similar to share with my readers.

I’m a huge Amazon fan, so Amazon Associates (in theory) is awesome because it lets me share my Amazon purchases with custom links so that if my readers purchase using those links, I get a percentage (just like ShareASale). I do have to say though, I do not understand one bit when I do and do not get paid or how much. That could just be me not getting it, but it seems a bit inconsistent.

I feel like I just threw a lot of information out there, and I hope at least some of it was useful to bloggers who are just getting started and need a few hacks. Please, as I told many ladies last night, do not hesitate to reach out to me if you have any questions about the above tools, social media, blog monetization, or blogging in general. It’s all one big learning curve and I’m always happy to share ideas or even just chat. Feel free to leave a comment below or shoot me an email at thecarolove@gmail.com.


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One of the best parts of Bubbles & Bloggers is the fact that we support our own bosses in their entrepreneurial endeavors. A couple weekends ago, we had a Shop The City meetup to check out and support a relatively new business venture by our friend and member Sahra. It’s exactly how what it sounds like- a shopping tour of some amazing local spots. I won’t spoil it for you- go on the tour and see it for yourself! We started on 14th Street, hitting up some spots I’ve heard up but had never been to, which was pretty awesome. After a brief(ish) stop to take pictures in front of the totes-appropes WORK IT GURL mural (where I quick-changed into my new rose gold skirt in the parking lot), we hopped in our own private bus and headed to Georgetown. We saw a few boutiques there before a massive storm hit and we ran to the Graham for Amanda’s Whistle & Wild popup and Marisa’s mini styling session.

Really late in the game, Dani thought it might be fun to pop a Sex and the City theme on our day. B&B usually themes our events, and this theme made a lot of sense for a day of shopping with lady-friends. I’m not sure if I totally nailed it, but Dani said I was a Carrie Diaries version of Carrie Bradshaw. I’ll take it! What do you think?

Yes, I got this skirt while shopping.

photos by Sarah

Outfit details:

Sunnies: Betsey Johnson||Asymmetric Acrylic Bar Pendant: BaubleBar||Top: Macy’s||Striped Skirt: Loft Outlet||Rose gold skirt: Current Boutique||Backpack: Betsey Johnson||ECENTRCQ sneakers: Steve Madden

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I’ve been to so many fun and amazing events as a blogger, and I think I’m extra protective of them because of a) my responsibilities as a community manager to Bubbles & Bloggers and b) because the hostesses are often good friends of mine who worked hard to get all the details just perfect for the attendees.

This is not going to be a nicey-nice “everyone should do what makes them happy and be friends and live their life” post. No. That is me 90% of the time, at least on my blog. Today’s post might ruffle feathers and tick people off, but I honestly don’t think it should. Some of these issues to me, are common sense. But either ladies need a refresher or, if you’re newer to the blogging community, you may not know. There has just been a lot of foolishness that I need to address.


  • Respect the RSVP- If the event calls for an RSVP, do so in a timely manner and stick to it. If you can’t make it because you have an emergency, let the hostess know- and before the event, not after! Life happens, I get that, but food, beverages, gift bags, etc. are organized around a headcount. Certainly don’t RSVP to an event that you know you won’t be able to attend- seriously- what is that all about?
  • Guests- sometimes, it’s OK to invite a guest. Just make sure to ask the hostess if you’re not sure, and let her know who is coming with you. Once at the event, be sure to introduce your guest to the hostess. If a blogger invites you to an event, don’t be stuck to her side all night. Branch out and talk to people you don’t know! Only bring your boyfriend if he agrees to shoot photos of everyone all night. JK but seriously.
  • Respect others’ time- There was a situation at one of our events where we had transportation. Because of one person not respecting time limits, we got back to DC late and we were charged a fee for that. It wasn’t much, but it’s the principle of the thing and everyone had to come out of pocket for more money, at the expense of one. We’re all adults, be where you need to be, when you need to be there. Living in DC, again, it’s understandable that life happens and you might not make it to an event on time. Try to get in touch with the hostess about your late arrival in case there’s some sort of presentation (which sometimes happens at blogging events- panels, brand presentations, etc.) so that people aren’t waiting around for you if you’re supposed to be there.
  • Respect others in general- If the panelist is talking, you aren’t. We learned this in kindergarten. One of my first blogging events a few years ago, a couple of ladies got rip-roaring drunk and literally talked through the whole thing. Not a good look. I don’t remember their blogs or anything about them besides the fact that they were rude. On the flip side, if it is a social event, be polite, make connections, and talk to someone you maybe haven’t before. It’s OK to be shy at these things (I know I used to be), but if you’re not and notice someone who is, reach out and help them! Thanks Bree for being this person for me at my first Blogger Scene! There is a difference between being shy and being rude, and I think at this point we can all see the difference. If someone looks like they are lingering and not talking to anyone, invite them so your convo a la sorority recruitment style. Say “Hey so and so, Caroline and I were just talking about THIS!” And they are instantly involved.
  • Gift bags- OK so this is a new one for me. But I’ve heard of girls asking for the hostess to send them gift bags for a an event that they did not attend. Huh? Gift bags are a way to say, “thank you for coming to my event! Here’s a reminder of some of the awesome sponsors who helped me put this together for you!” Asking a hostess to send you a gift bag (at the cost of the hostess) is like saying, “sorry I was too busy to come to your event, but can I have a present anyway?” 
  • While we’re on the subject of sponsors- I realize that blogging is a business and a lot of networking. But I actually had someone ask me one time if a sponsor from an event could sponsor theirs. I didn’t really know this individual very well, and was kind of taken aback that she just wanted the contact info from a brand I have a real relationship with to get free stuff. If you really want a contact, request tactfully and respectfully.
  • To end on a positive- network network network. I’ve made some of my absolute best friends from blogging, and have had really interesting opportunities thrown my way because of it. Don’t be afraid to go to as many events as you can handle (even across different networks) and meet as many people as you can. Don’t be afraid to give out your cards, or an immediate Instagram follow (the modern business card). Don’t be afraid to follow up with someone you had a connection with for a one on one date. You’ll make friends, learn, and grow as a person!



Annnnnd hopefully I’m not hated after publishing this post. I’d love your feedback!


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