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I am proud to say that I am a success story of art therapy. After my sister died, I think that weekend, actually, our pastor’s wife suggested that I go into therapy and that art therapy would probably be a good option for me. I didn’t only not object, I enthusiastically agreed to go. Despite what my high school suggested, I stayed off any medication to “help me focus” and went the talking route instead. (I also threw myself into dance company, photography, and hanging out in any free art studio where I wasn’t underfoot after school.) I got back on honor roll in time for graduation, which I consider one of my biggest successes.

One thing that I learned about myself, aside from working through some very complicated emotions for a child, is that I’m extremely tactile. What I mean by that is that anything I created with Wendy, my therapist, had to have texture for me for it to feel complete. My favorite thing to do with her was paint. So one week I would paint and talk and the following week I would either continue working on what I was doing or sit with the painting on my lap, telling her what I created and why. After a few times of this, Wendy realized that as I talked about my painting, I’d run my hand over it pretty much constantly. A lot of my pieces had things stuck to them- CDs or sequins or anything to make them 3D. I was really unsatisfied with one, and Wendy realized it was because it was too flat.

This wasn’t a huge revelation. Honestly, I’m a walking bundle of sensory overload in all ways, but touch has always brought me a sense of comfort and security. I was one of those kids who always had to be reminded “touch with your eyes not with your hands.”  I still sleep with Little Pillow- once a pillow and now essentially a square of flannel. I probably shouldn’t admit this, but when I get upset I rub my face on it.

Whatever y’all. I’m weird. You should know this.

Fall is great because textures start to come out to play. Summer is all about lightweight cotton for me, but with fall comes suede and heavy sweaters and velvet and oooohhh I can’t wait. What are some of your favorite textures to wear?

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Velvet Twist Headband||Floral Embroidered Velvet Kimono||Steve Madden Women’s Clever Block-Heel Sandals

Faux Fur Tippet Scarf||Knit Faux Fur Pom Beanie||Billabong Furever Love Faux Fur Vest

Cable Knit Loose Sweater||Women’s Bp. Tiered Sleeve Cable Knit Sweater||Johnstons of Elgin – Cable-knit Cashmere Headband – Gray

BB Dakota – Wade Faux Suede Drape Jacket Women’s Coat||Mur Mur Faux Suede Cape Jacket||Mia Monique Faux Suede Booties

 

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I’ve mentioned at a couple of blogger events that as a new blogger, I kind of jumped at every opportunity to partner, even if the brand asked for money upfront. I know now that that is a no-no, and I won’t call out some of those brands because, honestly, I have made a couple sales through their affiliate programs. Not enough to recoup even the cost of what I originally purchased, but there is a chance to make that money back if you hustle hard enough, I’m sure.

I would recommend staying clear of any affiliate/ partnership program that asks you to buy the product yourself and share it with your readers because, frankly, you never know if you’re going to make that money back. However, most of these programs have also been totally transparent with me so I can’t really fault smaller companies for trying to gain a following and make a buck. It’s not really how brand partnerships should be done, but that’s another topic for another post.

ANYWAY- 

There’s also a collective of shady biatches that I will 100% tell all of my readers and fellow bloggers to stay away from. Apparently, they’re all under the same umbrella of crap. The first is Nora NYC. They contacted me earlier this summer about an affiliate program where all I had to do was buy their sunnies half off and advertise with a special code and make money. Mmmmk well I’m a sunny-junkie so I figured why not. The sunglasses came in and I’m telling you it felt like my head was in a damn vice. They were cute, sure, but so uncomfortable that I couldn’t in good conscious advertise them to my readers. Essentially money down the drain on that one since I couldn’t return them. Also, that code they sent me for my readers- a generic code that gives my readers a discount but does nothing for me. Not much of a partnership, huh?

Then, recently, I started getting emails in my inbox from Chic Wish List. I never signed up for these emails, but they caught my attention, so I checked them out. I’m a big fan of fast fashion sites, so I recognized some of their products as the same type of thing I would find on, let’s say, SheIn… but marked up into the hundreds of dollars. Last Thursday, they tagged me on Instagram and asked me to be a brand ambassador. I decided to check it out just for the heck of it.

Tassel Detail PU Crossbody Bag With Ring Handle available from SheIn Note: I know these bags are not exactly the same, but both are PU aka polyurethane aka not real leather or even vegan leather. Great for a fun cheapy- def not worth $265.

First of all, the language was very unclear- was I getting a necklace for free or was I paying a discounted price on the item plus a free gift? I knew this site looked shady so I decided to follow through with the set up until it asked me for money, just to see. WELP- the cheap crap marked up x100 would not be free but “heavily discounted.” Nope. Wasn’t paying for it. Stopped what I was doing and looked up Mirina scam and Chic Wish List scam and found hundreds of blog posts and videos calling them out on their BS. I believe that Mirina is the umbrella company and that Nora NYC is part of it, but I’m not 100% sure. They may just be sister-scammers. It seems like they make most of their money convincing bloggers to buy their junk, but that’s just my own speculation.

Check out the video below for a detailed rant of one experience that kind of covers all the bad stuff they’ve been doing to bloggers, and I assume, other customers.

Bloggers and consumers alike- if you ever find yourself looking at a deal that doesn’t seem quite right, Google it. Read the reviews. Educate yourself before you make a purchase that feels funny. Have you ever been scammed or avoided a scam? I’d love to know about your experiences!

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I’m a huge fan of saving money on clothes, shoes, and accessories. My running shoes and my Uggs are childrens’ sizes because it’s about half the price. After working retail, I never bought anything full price because I know there is always a sale coming. This also means that I don’t have to shop every sale because there will be another one next week LOOKING AT YOU, ESPECIALLY, LOFT! If there’s a trend I want to try, I’ll Amazon Prime it. One of my favorite dresses this summer was $17 with free shipping and I have no shame in that. Most of my dresses for work are Old Navy t-shirt dresses that hold up forever and was like a dream. And I will brag about the deal I found because let’s be real most of my friends are in their 20s and we all have rent to pay and Ubers to take and overpriced coffee to grab on our way into work. I love sharing a good deal with my girls! It’s not to say I don’t love quality things. Kate Spade is a personal favorite and that ish does not run cheap. Ralph Lauren and Tommy Hilfiger dresses fit me really well, but their outlet selections, for me, are even better than most department stores. My best work bags are structured, real leather, and top brands. Up until last year, I only wore real leather boots, but vegan leather has come a long way since the pleather of the 90s.

This is all to say that there is no shame in finding a deal if there’s something you love but you can’t quite spring for the full-priced fandango. I read a fantastic blog post in defense of the dupe that basically breaks it down like this: there is a difference between a dupe and a fake. A fake is saying that the product is the designer. A dupe mimics a design. So where a fake will have an Hermès sticker that might fall off one day when it’s tired of pretending to be the real thing, the Jane bag here is just a quality leather bag in a style that we recognize.

When I was younger and had less of an appreciation for copyright, trademark, and creative property, I was all about fakes. I had a great fake Chanel wallet that I got in the Bahamas for like $10. I have a few Louis logo bags from the beach that are of questionable origin. (I can’t part with them because they’re super colorful and fun!) While I stay away from straight knockoffs now because I think they look cheap, I’ve come to appreciate the well-done dupe if there’s a style I like but can’t afford. What surprised me is that dupes are actually good for fashion economy. I found an NPR article highlighting this, but I am definitely going to get my paws on The Knockoff Economy: How Imitation Sparks Innovation.

Below are just some examples- what’s your opinion on the fake vs. dupe argument?

Hermès Matte Alligator Birkin 35||The Essential Jane Bag With Scarf Croc Leather Green||Valentino Garavani Rockstud pumps||VASHOP Women’s Gladiator Rivets Buckle Studded Sandals T-strap Kitten Dress Sandals||Céline Nano Luggage Tote||Vanessa Medium Tote In Smooth Leather Black And White||Princetown leather slipper||Black Faux Leather Rose Embroidered Slip-on Shoes||Chanel Quilted Medium Old Boy Flap Bag||Ingrid Quilted Medium Leather Bag Black

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I cannot start today’s post without first thanking everyone for the support on my post yesterday. It meant the world to me how receptive and understanding folks were to my thoughts on a subject that is on my mind each and every day. It actually opened the door to a couple conversations that I think needed to be had as well. Thank you, sincerely, from the bottom of my heart.

Ok- so back to the regularly scheduled programming.

I have described the town where I grew up as equal parts Lilly Pulitzer and camo. I have a Realtree camo hat with a pink monogram. A little bit country, a little bit preppy. Now engaged to an Army man, I actually asked Kendall what he thought of camo clothes, because I would never want to offend him by turning what he works for into some fashion that he finds frivolous.

“I don’t like it.”

“Can you elaborate?”

“It’s green.” (green is his least favorite color)

He also thought it was RULL dumb when Forever 21 was selling what were essentially recently retired PT (physical training) t shirts for $40. (He said he’d sell you his for $20. He also said they’re like $7 for a pack of them so he’s price gouging you too). But I look good in green and he doesn’t mind me wearing camo and I still like it so there you go.

Olive Green Drop Shoulder Camo Sweater||Oversized Camo Parka Jacket CAMOUFLAGE||Camo Print Sweatsuit

Herschel Supply Co. Settlement Backpack||FV RELAY Women’s Camo Loose Fit Short Sleeve Crew-Neck Swing||Groove Women’s Genius Fashion Sneaker

Hybrid Juniors’ Embroidered Camo Printed Cutout T-Shirt||‘Cause She’s Gone Camo Jacket – Camo||Women’s Jag Jeans Ryan Camo Skinny Pants

Democracy Camo Floral Jacket||Decree Womens Camo Stud Bracelet Watch||Express Camo Silky Soft Twill Boyfriend Shirt

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I’ve been limiting my shopping recently because Kendall + I have some wedding expenses we need to save up for. This jives weird with my new job because I just want to stock my closet with new clothes for work. I’ve been on a total work wear kick recently, but I also know myself and that I wear dresses 90% of the time. From what I can tell, my new position has a similar dress code to my firm, but I don’t want to buy anything before I kind of feel it out (for example-sleeves- are they mandatory?).

That being said, I do have my eye on some budget pieces. I have found that as I get older I’ve been looking for more versatile, classic pieces for work that can go from season to season. Bonus points if it looks good with a button-up underneath and a cardigan over for layering once it gets cold. I also look for a length that works with flats and my trusty OTK black boots.

the carolove work dresses under $50

Checkered Cut Out Twiggy Dress||Laser Cut Out Shift Dress||Tweed Sheath Dress With Fringe Tape Detail

Bow Tie Neck Frayed Trim Tweed Dress||Work Dress for Women Sleeveless Houndstooth Black-White Business – Anna Field||ANGVNS Women’s Turn Down Collar Fishtail Dress Mermaid Ruffled Short Dress with Tie

Love…Ady Cap Sleeve Scallop Trim Fit & Flare Dress||Julie Brown Heather Shift Dress

Joe Fresh Print Overlap Dress||Eliza J Print Jersey Shift Dress||Donna Morgan Sleeveless Ruffle Polka Dot Shift Dress

Zip Back Ruffle Yoke Striped Dress||Self Tie Curved Hem Dolman Sleeve Dress||H&M Lyocell Shirt Dress

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