When it comes to planning a wedding, a lot of the details seem to be handled by the bride. Sometimes, it might feel like you’re doing everything and the groom isn’t really doing much at all. There are some important decisions that you make together like the venue, the food, and the entertainment, but a lot of the smaller details end up falling to the bride. There are some things that you want to handle on your own, like picking the wedding dress, but there are still a lot of details that the groom should be dealing with. If you’re in the process of planning your wedding, these are the responsibilities that the groom should have.
Groom Hanger
Choosing Groomsmen
The biggest job that the groom has is picking his groomsmen and his best man. The best man will be directing all of the groomsmen and making sure that everybody knows where they need to be and what they need to do on the big day. It’s a big decision because it’s not just about choosing the people that he wants to be part of the wedding, it’s also about picking people that will step up to their role and ensure that the day goes smoothly. Ultimately, the final decision comes down to the groom, however, it may be sensible for you to have some input and discuss it together. If there are certain friends or family members that you are not sure about and you don’t think that they would be a good fit for the best man, you should let your groom know beforehand.
Picking Attire
It’s down to you to pick the dresses for you and your bridesmaids, but it’s down to the groom to choose what he will wear, and what the groomsmen will wear too. It’s always best to go for custom suits, even if they cost a bit more because the fit will be a lot better and the groom can choose something that fits well with the theme of the wedding. Obviously, you don’t want him to see the dress before the big day, but it might be a good idea to discuss the general style that you’re going for so he can find something that compliments it well.
Guest Lists
The final guest list for the wedding will be discussed and decided on together. But before you get to that stage, you both need to draw up your own guest list of family and friends that you want to invite. It’s important that you choose the venue and come up with a budget before you start thinking about a guest list because this will give you a rough idea of how many people you want to invite. There’s no point coming up with a list of 200 people if you can only afford to have a small wedding.
Marriage License
Before you get married, you will need to secure a marriage license. Traditionally, this duty is left up to the groom. As well as securing the marriage license, the groom will have to make arrangements with the officiant and deal with the payment as well. It’s important that you do this ahead of time to make sure that everything is in place for the big day.
Booking Hotels
If you have a lot of family and friends coming in from out of town or you’re having a destination wedding, you will need somewhere for everybody to stay. Usually, it will not be left to the guests to sort out their hotel rooms themselves. Instead, the groom will organize it all and book the hotels. Once the invites have been sent out and the replies have come in, the groom needs to call around the guests and find out how many of them need somewhere to stay, so they can book everything in advance. If it is left too late, it might be difficult to secure enough rooms for everybody.
Thank You Gifts
After the wedding is over, you need to send thank you notes and possibly gifts out to all of the guests. Traditionally, the bride and groom each deal with their own guests separately. So, you need to sort out the thank you notes and gifts for your family and friends and the groom will do the same for his guests. There will be some guests that are friends of both the bride and groom, in which case, you can choose gifts together.
It might feel like everything is left up to you when planning the wedding, but the groom also has these important responsibilities as well.
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