I’ve been to so many fun and amazing events as a blogger, and I think I’m extra protective of them because of a) my responsibilities as a community manager to Bubbles & Bloggers and b) because the hostesses are often good friends of mine who worked hard to get all the details just perfect for the attendees.
This is not going to be a nicey-nice “everyone should do what makes them happy and be friends and live their life” post. No. That is me 90% of the time, at least on my blog. Today’s post might ruffle feathers and tick people off, but I honestly don’t think it should. Some of these issues to me, are common sense. But either ladies need a refresher or, if you’re newer to the blogging community, you may not know. There has just been a lot of foolishness that I need to address.
- Respect the RSVP- If the event calls for an RSVP, do so in a timely manner and stick to it. If you can’t make it because you have an emergency, let the hostess know- and before the event, not after! Life happens, I get that, but food, beverages, gift bags, etc. are organized around a headcount. Certainly don’t RSVP to an event that you know you won’t be able to attend- seriously- what is that all about?
- Guests- sometimes, it’s OK to invite a guest. Just make sure to ask the hostess if you’re not sure, and let her know who is coming with you. Once at the event, be sure to introduce your guest to the hostess. If a blogger invites you to an event, don’t be stuck to her side all night. Branch out and talk to people you don’t know! Only bring your boyfriend if he agrees to shoot photos of everyone all night. JK but seriously.
- Respect others’ time- There was a situation at one of our events where we had transportation. Because of one person not respecting time limits, we got back to DC late and we were charged a fee for that. It wasn’t much, but it’s the principle of the thing and everyone had to come out of pocket for more money, at the expense of one. We’re all adults, be where you need to be, when you need to be there. Living in DC, again, it’s understandable that life happens and you might not make it to an event on time. Try to get in touch with the hostess about your late arrival in case there’s some sort of presentation (which sometimes happens at blogging events- panels, brand presentations, etc.) so that people aren’t waiting around for you if you’re supposed to be there.
- Respect others in general- If the panelist is talking, you aren’t. We learned this in kindergarten. One of my first blogging events a few years ago, a couple of ladies got rip-roaring drunk and literally talked through the whole thing. Not a good look. I don’t remember their blogs or anything about them besides the fact that they were rude. On the flip side, if it is a social event, be polite, make connections, and talk to someone you maybe haven’t before. It’s OK to be shy at these things (I know I used to be), but if you’re not and notice someone who is, reach out and help them! Thanks Bree for being this person for me at my first Blogger Scene! There is a difference between being shy and being rude, and I think at this point we can all see the difference. If someone looks like they are lingering and not talking to anyone, invite them so your convo a la sorority recruitment style. Say “Hey so and so, Caroline and I were just talking about THIS!” And they are instantly involved.
- Gift bags- OK so this is a new one for me. But I’ve heard of girls asking for the hostess to send them gift bags for a an event that they did not attend. Huh? Gift bags are a way to say, “thank you for coming to my event! Here’s a reminder of some of the awesome sponsors who helped me put this together for you!” Asking a hostess to send you a gift bag (at the cost of the hostess) is like saying, “sorry I was too busy to come to your event, but can I have a present anyway?”
- While we’re on the subject of sponsors- I realize that blogging is a business and a lot of networking. But I actually had someone ask me one time if a sponsor from an event could sponsor theirs. I didn’t really know this individual very well, and was kind of taken aback that she just wanted the contact info from a brand I have a real relationship with to get free stuff. If you really want a contact, request tactfully and respectfully.
- To end on a positive- network network network. I’ve made some of my absolute best friends from blogging, and have had really interesting opportunities thrown my way because of it. Don’t be afraid to go to as many events as you can handle (even across different networks) and meet as many people as you can. Don’t be afraid to give out your cards, or an immediate Instagram follow (the modern business card). Don’t be afraid to follow up with someone you had a connection with for a one on one date. You’ll make friends, learn, and grow as a person!
Annnnnd hopefully I’m not hated after publishing this post. I’d love your feedback!
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Great summary – and so applicable to business world events, as well. I admire the pointers on engaging someone who is a bit shy – it’s so easy to do and will definitely me remembered by the person you reached out to.
So funny- the sorority bit was actually an addition by my friend Rox but, truth be told, I STILL use “bumping. Thanks for reading Ally! x0x0
I found your comments both thoughtful and factual. Sometimes it takes an outsider looking in to point out rudeness that was not intentional. Kudos for being brave enough to put it out there with such concrete examples. Way to go, Caro!